An Open Letter to Self-Appointed Control Freaks
Dear Fellow Lovers of Control, Let me start by saying this: You are my tribe. I get you. I like you. I am you. (Read
Suzanne Manser, PhD
August 5, 2026
Tag: anxiety
Build a Mental Health Toolbox Using these 13 Tools
I’ve been a therapist for 30 years, and here’s what I know: there are a lot of mental health strategies that work, but few work
Suzanne Manser, PhD
July 20, 2026
The Art of Letting Go
I’ve been a therapist for over 25 years, and in my experience, there are two things that humans are extraordinarily bad at: self-compassion and letting
Suzanne Manser, PhD
March 26, 2024
Worriers, Catastrophizers, and Overpreparers: This One’s For You
Those of us with anxious brains spend a lot of time focusing on potential future pain. We pre-suffer. We’re causing ourselves unnecessary harm. It’s time to stop.
Suzanne Manser, PhD
October 10, 2023
46 Iffirmations to Change Your Life (nope, that’s not a typo)
One of my absolute favorite mindset-management tools are iffirmations. Nope, not affirmations. Iffirmations. Affirmations are also mindset-management tools. Affirmations are statements that we are trying to get
Suzanne Manser, PhD
September 5, 2022
How To Go with the Flow, for Those of Us with Anxiety
The Anxious Approach Those of us with anxious brains tend to go through life with a white-knuckle grip on it. We like structure, we like
Suzanne Manser, PhD
September 28, 2021
Perfectionists and Perspective Shifts
“Someone once asked me, ‘Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?’ I replied, ‘Why do you assume I see two roads?’” –
Suzanne Manser, PhD
February 1, 2020
A Word about Worrying: Preparation
Worry: to allow one’s mind to dwell on potential future difficulty or troubles (i.e., pain). There are many ways to worry and many kinds of
Suzanne Manser, PhD
March 2, 2019
Me, My Observer-Self, and I
I picture my observer-self as somewhere around eight inches diagonally up from my right ear. My observer-self is the part of me that notices what
Suzanne Manser, PhD
February 3, 2019
The Value of Values
Bring more meaning to your days, more connection to yourself, by asking: How do I want to show up?
Suzanne Manser, PhD
January 20, 2019