Acceptance

Acceptance

It has always been challenging for me to fully convey what the word “acceptance” means, when it comes to accepting painful feelings or painful situations. “Acceptance” has a bad rap, no doubt about it. No one gets excited when I suggest we work on accepting pain. A few patients have flat-out refused. The predominant assumption is that ...
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Be the Change

Be the Change

Too often, I have caught myself sitting in my comfy therapist chair sucking in my stomach, or resting my arm in front of it. It is a subconscious habit, born from decades of subconscious societal training. I am sure I have done it while encouraging someone to let go of judgment about their body. As a responsible ...
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Making Room for Painful Emotions

Making Room for Painful Emotions

Emotional pain is part of being human. If we feel positive emotions, we will feel negative emotions. That’s just how it works. We can’t avoid pain. Patients come to me for help with all kinds of pain: fear, sadness, shame, loneliness, self-loathing, overwhelming stress. The typical request, of course, is to help them get rid of the ...
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Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

This is one of those truths I wish I had been taught as a kid. As we know, our brains churn out thousands of thoughts, all day long. What I didn’t know as a kid is that not all of these thoughts are true, relevant, or helpful. The brain’s job is to spit out thoughts based on ...
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