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The COVID Marathon

The COVID Marathon

It’s the beginning of Week 5 for most of us.* Most of us started hitting our wall last week. I heard it from patient after patient last week, and still into this week: It is feeling so much harder. Here’s how it’s gone so far: Week 1: Lots of confusion about the virus; concern for what is ...
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Perfectionists and Perspective Shifts

Perfectionists and Perspective Shifts

“Someone once asked me, ‘Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?’ I replied, ‘Why do you assume I see two roads?’” – Author Unknown Perfectionists will identify with this quote. We often see only one road. On this road, there is one valid way to move through the world – perfectly. Anything less is ...
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Intentional Holidays: How to Build a Connected Intention

Intentional Holidays: How to Build a Connected Intention

[This is from a talk I gave earlier this week for Eating Disorders Round Table, so it is longer than my usual articles.] I have two issues with New Year’s resolutions: the first is that it has become tradition for New Year’s resolutions to be about being “healthier” in some respect. And being “healthier” is usually code ...
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Surviving Thanksgiving

Surviving Thanksgiving

For people who have a difficult relationship with food and/or their bodies, Thanksgiving can be a miserable nightmare of a holiday. It is a day completely centered around food and eating. For many people, these are pleasant or even pleasurable topics. However, for anyone dealing with disordered eating, these topics range from very uncomfortable to terrifying. Thoughts ...
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An Overview: Life in Four Easy Steps

An Overview: Life in Four Easy Steps

My blog is intended to be a bit of a How-To in living a meaningful and easier life. It addresses topics such as managing painful thoughts and emotions, increasing self-acceptance, and living with more intention. This article is an overview, compiled into four easy (you know, like “taking-home-Olympic-gold easy”) steps. If you’d like the more in-depth how-to’s, ...
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Strategies for Intentional Days: The Mason Jar Challenge

Strategies for Intentional Days: The Mason Jar Challenge

Imagine a mason jar. The jar represents your day today. Next to it are a pile of big rocks, a pile of pebbles, and a pile of sand. The rocks represent the most important bits of your day, the pebbles are the medium important bits, and sand is the smaller, daily bits that generally get accomplished (e.g., ...
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The Code: Cracked

The Code: Cracked

We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this ...
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Choosing Focus to Impact Your Experience

Choosing Focus to Impact Your Experience

In Don’t Believe Everything You Think, I talk about the idea that although you can’t control which thoughts enter your mind, you can choose which ones you focus on. Today I’m expanding on that: although you can’t control what happens in every moment of your life, you can choose what you focus on about each moment. This ...
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Stay Out of Other People's Heads!

Stay Out of Other People’s Heads!

Some of us spend A LOT of time in other people’s heads, trying to figure out what the other person “really” thinks of us. Do they like us? Are they attracted to us? Do they think we’re smart? Do they think we’re annoying? We analyze their words, looks, intonation, and body language as clues to their thoughts ...
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