An Open Letter to Self-Appointed Control Freaks
Dear Fellow Lovers of Control, Let me start by saying this: You are my tribe. I get you. I like you. I am you. (Read
Suzanne Manser, PhD
August 5, 2026
Category: Perfectionism
Self-Acceptance: How to Do It in 2 Simple Steps
Learn how to accept yourself – and why it’s important! – in two simple steps.
Suzanne Manser, PhD
March 2, 2026
Locus of Acceptance: Who gets to decide if you matter?
“Locus of acceptance.” I used this phrase with a patient the other day, and I kind of love it. I think I made it up.
Suzanne Manser, PhD
February 17, 2025
Inner Critic: Professional Bully
Our inner critic is the voice in our head that we often mistake for our own voice. Her voice is recognizable because she has only
Suzanne Manser, PhD
November 29, 2023
46 Iffirmations to Change Your Life (nope, that’s not a typo)
One of my absolute favorite mindset-management tools are iffirmations. Nope, not affirmations. Iffirmations. Affirmations are also mindset-management tools. Affirmations are statements that we are trying to get
Suzanne Manser, PhD
September 5, 2022
Perfectionists and Perspective Shifts
“Someone once asked me, ‘Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?’ I replied, ‘Why do you assume I see two roads?’” –
Suzanne Manser, PhD
February 1, 2020
A Word about Worrying: Preparation
Worry: to allow one’s mind to dwell on potential future difficulty or troubles (i.e., pain). There are many ways to worry and many kinds of
Suzanne Manser, PhD
March 2, 2019
Self-Acceptance: Getting Past the Troll
Self-acceptance is HARD. As a therapist and a human, I can whole-heartedly attest to this. It is a journey that can take people decades to
Suzanne Manser, PhD
February 16, 2019
Don’t Believe Everything You Think
This is one of those truths I wish I had been taught as a kid. As we know, our brains churn out thousands of thoughts,
Suzanne Manser, PhD
November 16, 2018